For those of us not strictly heterosexual, negotiating our way through daily life can be challenging. Accepting one’s own ‘difference’ requires courage, solid self-confidence and self-love: dealing with the reactions and attitudes of some dyed-in-the-wool heterosexuals makes it just that little bit harder.

Quentin Crisp summarised it thus: ”Mainstream people dislike homosexuality because they can't help concentrating on what homosexual men do to one another. And when you contemplate what people do, you think of yourself doing it. And they don't like that. That's the famous joke: I don't like peas, and I'm glad I don't like them, because if I liked them I would eat them and I hate them.”

Sex. Peas. Whatever... all of us have varying levels of tolerance and acceptance for things unlike us. We bring preconceptions to the table, thinking we know all there is to know about different sexualities. In fact, we cannot possibly know how it feels to be other than ourselves. The best we can be is surprised, delighted and educated by the variety which is ‘life’s rich tapestry.’

Other-than-heterosexual people want (and agonise about) the same things as heterosexuals: love, happiness, a home and family, good health and fitness, career, fun, success, sport and travel … more or less. Believing yourself ‘good enough’ is a constant challenge for all of us. That said, queer folk work hard at being better, brighter, smarter and more successful, just to make sure.

Striving to achieve all the things we want is difficult enough without having to wrangle anyone’s misconceptions. And it’s impossible to judge by appearances what people think and believe. Here at Prosperalot Coaching, we believe in your personal integrity. You are doing your very best to live a decent life, according to what you believe to be important and of lasting value to you and your loved ones. Whatever your background, gender or sexuality, what’s important to us is for you to get more out of life from now on.

With pride, we choose to focus on coaching Canberra’s richly diverse community, inclusive of all sexualities.